Ever gone to a meeting, only to discover you were in a “certain” kind of a mood? Where you are certain everything is happening in such a way as to annoy you?
First, there’s the person who keeps talking and talking and that the group allows to talk, way off the topic. Can't they ever respect the clock and other people’s need to share? Oh, and then there is the person who vents too much about their problem family member. You squirm in your seat. Don’t they get that this is a program that focuses on solutions, not problems? Then, your Inner Critic notices a member coming in late—again.
See any patterns?
I've been there too. But wait. Let's go back to our program’s fundamentals. What am I looking for in my meeting? Will I find it by looking for flaws in everyone around me?
Instead, let me remember why I am here. It is for the purpose of finding piece of mind, and for healing my emotional wounds, not to create a caustic judgmental environment in my head.
As the author of March 27th's ODAT reminds us: “In every meeting there is some good to be gained, no matter what is said or done.”
My attitude may be making everything much worse than it needs to be. Let me refrain from looking for flaws in others. If instead, I "look for the Good," I can learn from each person’s experience, strength and hope. I can also learn compassion, for a person's stuck-ness, too.
“I have learned silence from the talkative; tolerance for the intolerant and kindness from the unkind. I should not be ungrateful to these teachers.” Kahlil Gibran
(Inspired by March 27th's reading in ODAT)