I am probably not alone in having a loved one that makes my failures something to comment about. Mine, thankfully does not do it in public. Still, I am not pleased to have them point out a past mistake. Nor am I happy to have them comment on my memory or my health problems or whether I am boring or not. Do I dare tell my critical person they hurt my feelings? What if they just insist, " I've done nothing wrong. Everyone knows it is true. Why are you taking offense?"
Maybe the lesson lies in the passage I shared yesterday,
In that vein, today's CTC author posed this question, "How often have I justified my own unkindness, or my interfering where I had no business?" Something to think about. Too many times, my dry drunk ruined my life with her rages. Wasn't I right to point that out to her again and again and again?
Well, just like my problem person, I am justifying insensitive behavior, claiming to be "right." I can only make a choice for myself: "I can be right or I can be happy." In fact it takes self-love to let others be themselves. "With help, I can live and let live."
Gentle repetition of our program teachings is helping me to let go of my certainty about what I think other people need to hear, and what they should do with my information. "I can respect another's choices, even when I strongly disagree." My relationships will improve by my working on my own inventory.
I needed this quote today:
"Lord, when we are wrong, make us willing to change. And when we are right, make us easy to live with." Peter Marshall