November 4, 2010

A Program Plan, for Dealing with the Inevitable...

I cannot put this any better than the author of Today's CTC: 

"I may wish to avoid disappointments, but [when one is unavoidable] I  find the only way to have serenity is to become willing to accept the things I cannot change.  Acceptance gives me choices." 

When my dry drunk reneges on a promise, I find I am left with unmet expectations.  And anger. 

After talking with my Sponsor, I realized the next time I relied on my dry drunk, and they pulled out a rug from underneath me, I would have a back up plan. Or two back up plans.

I would have a way to accomplish my goal, by calling a program buddy as a back-up, even as I gave my problem person a fair chance to show up and be part of our plans.  I would explain the situation to my program buddy and give them the choice to participate.  Plan C might be to have a plan for a whole different activity if both plans fell through. 

Thank goodness for my Sponsor's  suggestion, that I consider "having back-up plans wheneve my plans involved someone I couldn't  depend on. "  I expect my new approach will help me, not only to put acceptance to work on my life, but to learn flexibility.

With the help of program problem-solving, "I no longer have to depend on any one person or situation in order to get on with my day. Today, I have choices."

"Consider the little mouse, ho sagacious an animal it is, which never entrusts his life to one hole only." Plautus


If you don't design your own {} plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.  Jim Rohn

Amen, again. 


  1. Oh, do I know this lesson recently!!!
    Not because I lack for A,B or C- but because I HOPE for someone, to step forward/ up. A particular friend- who is in recovery- But
    has proven to be unreliable...Guess what? she's getting left behind-

  2. Yes, in our walk towards HOPE, we must pick reliable people to support our efforts. I am kinder to others when I realize that at times I am unreliable, but I am not kind to myself when I habitually choose people that don't come through for me in my hour of need. Thanks for stopping by, Izzy...

  3. I think that depending on the dry drunk is pointless. I have lowered my expectations to realize that the only thing I can expect is the unexpected. My wife is not a dry drunk, but a good friend is very much one. He is restless, irritable, and discontent.


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