(Adapted for personal use from Courage to Change in Alanon.)
Says the author of February 22nd's reading: I had problems making decisions because my standards were impossible to achieve. I wanted to make decisions that would get me exactly what I wanted, or I didn't want to make them at all. I learned in EA that no one can know in advance all the consequences of any decision. We can only take the information at hand and do our best in choosing thoughtfully.
I don't have to make decisions alone. I can turn to God for help. Over time I have come to realize that this help takes many different forms--a meeting topic that offered perspective, a tug at my stomach, a "coincidence." And sometimes God speaks through others. When memebers share their experience, strength and hope, I listen carefully to how they handled similar situations.
In the grand scheme of things, no single decision is ever really that important. I can do my best to make decisions wisely, but the results are in the hands of a Higher Power.
With the help of a Higher Power, decision-making can be one of life's greatest adventures. Each crossroad brings a new challenge, and I am capable of dealing with whatever comes my way.
"When I used to make specific requests of God, I was so busy waiting for them to be granted, that I didn't realized the answers were staring me in the face."
As we Understood.