Weaving my personal recovery using the fabric of Emotions Anonymous and the healing strands of Alanon.
I'm learning H.O.W. to calm the chaos when my "dry" drunk wreaks havoc.
September 8, 2011
Letting Others Lead Me To a Larger Sense of Myself
REFLECTION FOR TODAY
In trying to change into being the person I want to be, I ask myself what kind of people I most enjoy being with. I like to be around others who have a sense of humor, who can laugh at themselves and giggle at life's
peculiarities. I enjoy those who are considerate of others' feelings, who are happy and comfortable to be with. I admire people who are positive in their thinking and who are even-tempered. I can become this kind of person by developing these qualities and characteristics. I must build on my assets, concentrating on the positive factors of my personality. Imust ask my Higher Power for help to believe in me.
MEDITATION FOR TODAY
Help me to be the kind of person whose company I enjoy.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The going is slow, but I have all my life to work on this growth.
FROM: TODAY BOOK, (emotionsanonymous.org) "(C)Copyright Emotions Anonymous, used with permission of the EA International Service Center" (Third printing, 1991
I am doing the rare thing and sharing a reading from our EA daily reader. I was moved by another person's sharing on the reading. He objected to an effort to change one's nature, by imitating others. He felt instead, that self-acceptance, of the good and the bad, had to come before real change was possible. He felt that the characteristics mentioned in the reading revealed themselves after he practiced self-forgiveness.
To which I found myself thinking, "I think what S is saying, is that trying to change ourselves can lead yet to another form of addiction. The malaise of perfectionism. I see this in my tendency to pick my skin or nails, trying to remove blemishes or smooth out rough edges, but only doing harm."
To me the Today reading suggests that learning to recognize (discern) the positive influences of others who are emotionally healthy...and allowing ourselves to learn how to laugh, lighten up and enjoy life more... can be a Higher Power's blessing for us.
Through gentle changes healthy relationships influence my character. This is how program works. Not by using others to "fix" myself. Instead I prefer to think of it as a process of education. To me the process of becoming educated means literally to let others help me bring new things out of myself. It is a developmental thing.
Derived from mid-15century, the word educate means, to "bring up (children), train," from L. educatus, pp. of educare "bring up, rear, educate," which is related to educere "bring out, lead forth," from ex- "out" (see ex-) + ducere "to lead".
I am a member of Emotions Anonymous, which adapts AA's 12 steps for recovery from alcoholism, to recovery from emotional illness. Sojourning in Al-anon, a program for family members of recovering alcoholics, has helped me in dealing with my family, which was impacted by borderline personality disorder. Feel free to read!
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