I had a wonderful Skype discussion with an EA member last week, that was less concerned with the D.O.C. concept of Step Six, as it was on a personal resistance to the idea that it is good and right to ask for part of ourselves to be removed.
I came across a reading from Courage to Change (listed in the index under Character Defects) that I have shared with that person, and am sharing here. Food for thought.
Open to your perspectives/thoughts/questions.
"When I first started working the Steps, the thought of having my [character limitations] removed made me very nervous. I thought I would end up like a chunk of Swiss cheese, full of holes. But I wanted to get better and I was continually assured that the Steps were the key to my recovery, so I went forward in spite of my fears. I had to take the risk and act on faith before I could receive the gifts my Higher Power held out to me.
Nowhere in Steps Four through Seven do we ask God to take away the things we do not need. I found that every single character [limitations] had been hiding an asset.
[This meant, in allowing an apparent limitation to be removed] I didn't lose myself at all. Instead, as I let go of the things I didn't need, I made room for my strengths, skills and feelings to become more fully a part of my life. I take comfort in this, because it reminds me that everything I need is already present. But I couldn't be sure until I worked the Steps and found some relief from my shortcomings.
God knows exactly what I need and has already given it to me. My job is to keep it simple and ask for God's help in relieving me of the extra stuff--the shortcomings that keep me tied down."
"Before sunlight can shine through a window, the blinds must be raised." American proverb ( I love this quote! How appropos!)