January 16, 2013
Gratitude for Beliefs that Breathe
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I was surprised myself to see how much I struggle when someone stays stridently resistant to any part of Step One. Reflecting more, I came into touch with the sorrow underneath my frustration and impatience.
Not everyone who rejects program, tells us why, so when a person speaks their mind, I am grateful. I also want to understand, and respect our differences. But I cannot deny that it hurts to see someone hurting choose to stay outside our sphere of healing.
For me, our Twelve Step rooms were my place of last resort. Maybe that is why I get dismayed when a hurting person does not see value in program.
Still, with my unexamined biases, I create conflict. When I am seeking to share solace, and my efforts are rejected, that is conflict. It also happens inside of me, when I fight someone else's truth.
In recovery my job in dealing with relapse in an open-hearted way, is to be willing to "kill the Buddha." That is, to be willing to let go at any time when I find myself attached to one right way, even if it is the way I did program "last" time. I can be unwittingly attached because of my fear of relapse, which makes me rigid. Fear of relapse can and has put me right on track for losing my sanity. It's one of those most awful conundrums.
Today I can see that every time I've found myself in a relapse situation there is some kind of conflict taking place, some thoughts I am resisting. Some larger truth I am afraid of. There is direct conflict between who I think I am, and who I want to be. Those are fears I must admit and face.
Even when I am happily on my recovery path any belief I hold onto limits my experiences, makes my world small, and limits my sphere of sacred space. Limits the power of my spiritual awakenings and experience of healing.