I received a tough letter from someone I thought was a long-term friend in my program. I've rewritten it so that I feel less of a sting.
Thank you for your note of appreciation.
Now I would appreciate that you respect my choice--that you not be in contact with me.
It will be tough for you to understand, perhaps. But. I do not want endless explanations or for us to engage in run-on circle talk, trying to figure things out. I've unfortunately come to question your sincerity and stability. I have forgiven you many times for what have seemed recently like digs/back-stabbing to me, over years, but no longer. I don't want any apologies, and can no longer accommodate your short-comings.
Perhaps you won't understand. I wish I had been able to tell this to you much earlier, before things got to feeling so bad at my end.
As you have a hard time understanding the concept of detaching, I am making double sure you are warned of my boundaries. You have written short notes to me a few times already and I chose not to respond. Please respect my boundaries by not emailing/contacting me in any form, otherwise I will have to inform those that moderate our list serve.
I hope you won't need to rebut these words on any public forum It is, however, your patterning. You cannot just accept a fact without dissecting it to pieces.
You seem to have head games/jabs/flip-flop antics and are a big chocolate mess. I hope you will learn from this email and grow in ways that are less confusing for folks in recovery."
Yes, I hope to learn how to love myself despite the criticism that comes to me from out in left field. I have things to learn, and teamwork is one of them.