Consider Steps Eight and Nine and look first at yourself: "I made the list of people I have harmed---and I put myself at the top of the list." Perhaps this way of launching these Steps has never occurred to you??
I don't think I am unique: Somewhere early on, I learned that to think of myself first was wrong. Strangely, by putting others first, I inadvertently became a burden to others.
I need to admit that I have harmed myself from this way of thinking and living. Recovery is about living differently. Improving myself first, is the only way to act.
I am most certainly humbled when I consider these words from Today's Courage to Change: "Now I know that to take responsibility for myself is the first thing I must do to make the world a better place. Being true to me is one of the greatest gifts I can give to those around me."
It is not my business to inspire people, but certainly if I am successful in how I take proper care of myself, I may serve as an example. Let me accept this as true: that to give advice to others is to intrude; right action is to use that advice on myself.
"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine." Ralph Waldo Emerson