It was almost two years ago, I went to my first Al-anon meeting. My mission was to establish ties between our fledging EA group and the more established 12-step groups in our community.
My HP gave me a different gift, that was much more personal. I immediately intuited that Al-anon's gentle teachings would help me make peace with a family member 3000 miles distant. I immediately saw the validity of the principle "Detach with Love." It took a year, to realize I 'd no idea how Detachment works. In my second year, in a phone call with a friend who no longer attended Al-anon, the three C's got my attention.
Today I am Aware (and I Accept) that I cannot control the triggers that cause my dysfunctional family member to lose control over themselves and their sanity. I cannot smooth the way for their serenity—I am powerless!
Once I admit and accept how truly powerless I am over the situation, I can let go of my need to fix their life. Instead I trust that my personality disordered family member has her own Higher Power and that together they can work out her future. I am a new person because I am free of the constant vigilance over her and am free to live my own life.
Every day, let me choose to put my trust in a Higher Power, knowing all is well. God's power takes over when I supply the willingness to let go.
"minimalist style". exactly right. :) thanks for the mention.
ReplyDeleteLike you, I am letting God's power take over, I am willing to let go.
It was with great pleasure that I mention your recent entry in my own post. The timing was perfect for me, and my gratitude needed to be shared!
ReplyDeleteGod's healing power helps us to know when it is time to let go...
So true that the alcoholic has a Higher Power and I am not it.
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