(Adapted for personal use from Courage to Change in Alanon.)
I have been belaboring my own Fourth Step inventory, wanting it to be perfect this time around. Really.
I am looking forward to reading my fourth step out loud, even though I don't know who my fifth step person will be this time. Will it be my therapist or my minister? My current sponsor is someone I only know electronically, and so I won't have a listening ear, and I won't be able to look into her eyes.
I've already seen some behavior patterns that paralleled that of my dysfunctional family member. I too get angry and my fear gets the better of me, just like them. By seeing these traits, I realize that I participate in my disagreements with my family member. I choose to take everything personally, and react to my family member out of my fears.
I've already seen some behavior patterns that paralleled that of my dysfunctional family member. I too get angry and my fear gets the better of me, just like them. By seeing these traits, I realize that I participate in my disagreements with my family member. I choose to take everything personally, and react to my family member out of my fears.
Change begins when I am able to admit my shortcomings and admit that I have choices in how I behave. I know that I will continue to get into situations that will remind me of my Fourth Step, but with new awareness, my reactions will be less extreme.
Even since doing a mini Step Four regarding my recent relapse, I can see that some things about my dysfunctional family member that used to bother me terribly no longer matter so much. Putting the focus on myself as the only person I can change, I am grateful to say that what I have learned from my relapse has led to unexpected changes.
Even since doing a mini Step Four regarding my recent relapse, I can see that some things about my dysfunctional family member that used to bother me terribly no longer matter so much. Putting the focus on myself as the only person I can change, I am grateful to say that what I have learned from my relapse has led to unexpected changes.
"I am learning the 'nature of my nature' through the Twelve Steps. I trust that I will uncover what I need to know for now, and leave the rest for another time. I am worth learning about."
"When we take Step 5... we demonstrate a willingness to change." In all our affairs
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