Ah, the creative space of emptiness, but first the pothole

In Courage to Change on page 90, I believe I heard these words read at a meeting, last night.  "As I become more fully myself, I am better able to help others."

One member shared something that resonated with my feelings:

"When there is an emptiness or a hole inside me, I tend to want others to fill it for me.

If I go out and do for someone else, what I need, instead, I actually feel better.  What I want for myself, I create for others, by participating with God."  She shared, 

"I need to give exactly what I am asking for."   

Yikes. I admit, today I find this daunting. How do you work over this hump?