Erroneous Thoughts, and Counter-thoughts

First one that comes up in the final hours of the day

My son can't be disrespectful to me,  or I am not being respected.  True or not?

My son can't say, duh, without me feeling insulted.

(When I said this last one aloud, son said,  "Mom, duh is just what I say. Hey, you told me a long time ago I am not responsible for what others feel."  I was non-plussed and impressed, because his tone of voice was absolutely unassailable.  Then again, I knew that was not the note best to end on. These words wandered out, as I rubbed his neck:  "Well, but what about politeness and its way of making a situation more pleasant?"

Hmmm..